At its core, Me and You and Everyone We Know seems to be about communication and relationships in the digital age. Or rather how these relationships are evolving and changing, for better or for worse. Miranda July barrages her viewer with images of relationships between apparently distinct characters at different phases in their lives, each with its own dynamic. A key message the film seems to have is that anonymity, the kind of anonymity that was pioneered in the digital age with the advent of the internet and the cellular phone, changes the way in which we interact. This is seen both in the relationships between Robby and Nancy Harrington, and in the relationship between Heather and Rebecca, the teenage girls, and Andrew.
The interactions between Robby and Nancy seem to be a more direct approach to the subject matter as they are conversing via the internet. Through this you get a more candid view of these two people. The idea of pooping back in forth if said in a casual encounter in a bar or some more conventional social meeting would be unthinkable. But because of the anonymity this sort of interaction entails it frees people up to say things that they never would have said in any other circumstances. It is a double sided idea in this case. On one side you have a small child who seems to not quite understand what he is saying. But on the other hand you have a grown woman who seems to be expressing some sort of secret sexual fetish that she never would have confided in anyone else without this type of communication. Whether or not this is a positive or a negative seems less clear. But it does seem that Miranda July sees some sort of strange beauty in this sort of relationship.
Another thread in this story that shares this theme is the relationship between Heather and Rebecca, the teenage girls, and Andrew, the shoe salesmen friend of Richard. When these characters first meet Andrew refuses to say what he would do with the girls sexually because of the nature of the interaction. It is too direct and confrontational. So in the style of his time he writes it on pieces of paper and posts them on his window. This is the same idea as in the relationship between Robby and Nancy. Andrew can only say these sort of taboo sexual things to these young girls through a non confrontational medium. These are things he might in a regular social interaction think about but never really say, but because he can not be seen paired with these words, in his mind, he is more comfortable saying them. Of course when the girls finally knock on his door to come and lose their virginity to him he immediately drops to the floor and hides. Miranda July seems to be saying that maybe it is better for us not to act on these sort of animalistic impulses because perhaps that’s all they are, dirty, private, fleeting impulses.